I am 30, working, financially stable and pursuing a university degree. I was engaged to a woman I love very much for six years, because she kept postponing the wedding as she was still in college. However, when I least expected it and when the wedding arrangements were in top gear, she called it quits. I was so hurt that at some point I contemplated suicide but thanks to God and my friends, I didn’t do it. I have been on my own since then, creating a live-wire fence between myself and women only to meet this one woman who took my heart by storm.
I couldn’t resist her good-natured character but before we went very far, she disclosed to me that she was HIV-positive and didn’t want to mess with my life because she loved me very much.
The emotions accompanying her words and the torrent of tears over-powered me because she means everything to me.
I love her and would like to marry her, but I’m torn because I don’t feel strong enough to leave her on grounds of her HIV status. Is there any way out? Please advice.
Catch 22 – Answer
Wow! I see true love here for both of you already. Both of you are experienced and know what is like to be hurt and sincerely care about each other. That is why your woman disclosed her status. Quite a hard decision to make. The only thing I would advice you is that, I do believe in true love and nothing is impossible with God. He is there in that relationship and it is such a hard time. You only can decide to stay with your loving woman, but remember it takes your heart and mind plus love to do it. You may choose to leave her and how sure are you that the next one you will get will be clean? We live in this dirty world and they only light here is in Jesus. Ask him to guide you continually on this issue. The next thing you need to do is seek more information and help from Insitutions dealing with HIV and Aids and let you be adviced on how you can live with your woman if that will be your decision. Rememeber Asunta Wagura is HIV+ and living positively with a healthy baby. Why not you my dear. You can do it if you trust God. Take her by hand and walk into such an institution and believe me you will live forever happy.